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More on Mate Selection

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We continue our series on the building blocks of a successful marriage, by revisiting the issue of mate selection; a topic Dr. Thompson feels is so critically important, that we wanted to make sure we didn’t leave any information behind. We will discuss sex versus commitment, friendship love, and why opposites attract is a flawed theory.

Episode Segments

Relationship Management: Building the Foundation

In part one, Dr. Thompson introduces the four dimensions of loving relationships – complete love, self-giving love, friendship love, and infatuation/passion. He will explain why the sexual component of a relationship was meant to be temporary, and why a solid foundation is needed once the passion subsides.

Relationship Management: The Commitment

Society bases relationship on the sexual component. In the Christian model, the emphasis is on commitment, and that is why they are more successful. Dr. Thompson will explain fully why commitment is the better path. Also, friendship love: the safety net of the marriage.

Relationship Management: Finding Someone Like Yourself

We often tend to seek out mates that have the same desirable traits that we possess, like ethnicity, age, color, and location. However, we can also seek out those with the same undesirable traits we possess.

Relationship Matters: Opposites Attract

In our final section, Dr. Thompson delves into the theory that opposites attract; why the theory doesn’t hold up, and if it does, you are likely in an unhealthy relationship. Then, the filters every good relationship must pass through.